The holidays tend to necessitate an added level of support for many folks. Consider checking in with those who have shared a similar path at a local support group.

Grief Support

Bridge Home Health and Hospice Grief Support
December 18, 2017 7 – 8:30 p.m.
Will it be a Blue Christmas?
Group meets at Blanchard Valley Hospital Marathon Auditorium 1900 South Main Street Findlay, Ohio 45840. Registration is appreciated but not required. To register, call 800.982.3306 or email bridge@bvhealthsystem.org.

Addiction Support

Findlay has a variety of addiction-specific support groups throughout the week. Check out the resource list put together by NAMI to find a group to fit your needs.

Cancer Support

Cancer Patient Services has a variety of healing arts opportunities throughout December. Contact Bethany for details.

Persons Affected by a Loved One’s Suicide (PALS)

Meets the 4th Thursday of each month, 7:00-8:30 p.m. in the Waiting Room on 2nd Floor of the Ruse Building above the Blanchard Valley Hospital Emergency Room.  For more information call Century Health at 419-425-5050.

Gratitude in the Holiday Season

As the aisles fill with tinsel and holiday cards, we recognize that to some people the jingle bells and mistletoe are welcome reminders of years of joy and tradition. Yet for others, it triggers a sense of grief, anxiety, and depression. Many might feel all of these things in the same day.

One tool for navigating the sometimes-overly-cheerful season (along with approaching it mindfully) is the daily practice of writing in a gratitude journal. The routine of getting into a posture of gratitude can combat feelings of despair at a subconscious level. We tend to see what we look for (what we call the Confirmation Bias).  Gratitude will help you change how you see the landscape of your life by reprogramming your brain to look for the blessings rather than focusing on the ways you wish life was different.

Not to mention, the brain in a grateful state gets a natural extra dose of dopamine, the neurotransmitter responsible for helping you seek out rewards. This means your body will want you to continue to look for (and find!) reasons to be grateful.

But don’t just think it; write it down. The process of putting mental and emotional thought into a physical reality engages the brain at a deeper state. It also serves as a tangible means to review the reasons why you are grateful, even when you don’t necessarily “feel” the gratitude on a given day. Reviewing earlier entries can help kickstart that process.

Try not to make your gratitude conditional on your current level of happiness.  You don’t actually need to feel happy to conjure gratitude. You can acknowledge frustrations, sadness, and even anxiety and still turn your mind toward an experience of the day or something in your life, and feel a sense of gratitude toward it.  Go ahead and take the first step in a grateful direction.

One of the first responses to chronic stress is evaluating our work life. Often, well-meaning friends and family suggest getting a better grasp on a “work/life balance.” The assumption is that you work too much and live “real life” too little.

• Cultivate practices that help you return to your body, even while at work. Taking walks and isometric exercises at your desk help you return to your physicality. When you take a coffee break, set the laptop aside and truly taste the coffee and let yourself savor the flavor, not just the caffeinated effects.
• Neuroscientist Rick Hanson talks about “savoring the good” and feeling into moments of joy. So when you get the good news that the deal has gone through or that a client provided excellent feedback, sit an extra 3-5 seconds and allow it to ruminate.
• Finally, within your work day, just as in the greater picture of your life, make sure that rest & restore stops are scheduled. Just 90 seconds to 2 minutes of mindful breathing in the present moment can help reset the hyper-arousal of the sympathetic nervous system, helping to decrease the rate of sickness and bringing your mental state into the present moment. Consider scheduling into your daily iCal or Outlook calendar a 2-3 minute recharging, and then schedule around it.

   By Landon Dunn, LISW, LICDC

We’re designed for meaningful work. It gives us a sense of purpose, which is innate and imperative to feeling fulfilled. Even earthworms are purposeful in their work; they know instinctively to move through the dirt for a greater goal.

Just the idea of purpose drives much of our efforts, both at work and in service. From the TED stage, Dan Ariely explains how some people will quit working, even for higher pay, when they infer that the efforts are meaningless.

Some people find significance through their employment. Those in the helping professions (education, non-profit, social services and civil officers) often associate purpose with their jobs, which makes this quest for a meaningful contribution an easy association.

However, a career change isn’t always required in order to feel connected to meaningful work. Some people connect to meaningful work outside of employment, opting for roles that care for family or serve the community. More people use their hours outside of the office to cultivate a sense of contribution to a larger goal. Whatever the situation, attaching meaning to the ways you expend your energy remains a key element in cultivating a fulfilling life overall.

By: Holly Schweitzer Dunn, MSW, LISW